Mommy's Whine Time: My BIFF

Best friend time; the time that you actually get to see each other (not just chat on the phone for hours on end), the time that you get to hug, laugh, eat together (again, not crunching in each others ears on the phone while you're trying to scarf down lunch before your little gets it), drink together - yes, DRINK together... in person and it was actually ALCOHOL not coffee over FaceTime, and shop together without the littles.

Best friend time in life is CRUCIAL.

Like water for fish, women for straight men, hair gel for 'gays', and chocolate for PMS.

There are just some things in life you just can't live without!

When our best friend, Meghan, passed away almost five years ago I found myself lost... lost in the world being 19 years young, no "real job", no apartment of my own, nothing. I felt like my crazy life that I thought was so perfect was picked up and dropped off a skyscraper for the whole world to see crash into a million-gazillion pieces. I didn't know what was going to happen. Meghan and I had a bond, like a sister-sister bond. We did everything together... live, work, eat, sleep (most nights because my bed was so uncomfortable), pee... (let's face it... when you have a one bedroom, one bath apt. that you're sharing with another female it's quite hard to do ANYTHING alone)! Meghan, McKensey and I all had a special bond and a great friendship and when Meghan passed away something just felt empty and it was up to us girls to stick together to make sure nothing else in our world fell apart.

That's when it all began...

(DUN, DUN, DUN)

I found myself seeking a true friendship like the one I had with Meghan; a sister, a true bond, and a friend-soul-mate. I found that in McKensey. We began to hangout everyday, and we lived right next door to each other - at one time we even contemplated putting in a doggy-door in the wall... it would have made our lives so much easier instead of running up and down the damn stairs 20x a day! She became my rock, my shoulder to cry on, my therapist, my AA counselor, my workout buddy, and my coach, my teacher, my mentor, my MOM at times... and most of all, my BIFF. We made a vow to each other that we would always no matter what, be there for each other. Through thick and thin, rain and snow, hard times and great times... and that we would always love each other! To this day, she has never let me down. It's been five - almost six years later we are the best of friends and tell each other everything. I live every day to tell my best friend the exciting and crazy things about my daughter, my hubby, work, poopy diapers, and my chaotic life crisis' and it never fails that whenever we talk and hangout we talk about Meghan. We think about her all the time, how much fun she would be having with us and how much we miss her.

Friendship is something that I have learned to never take for granted. As we get older we realize who our true friends are in life - and everyone always says that but it's really true. You move away, you get married, you have littles and then BAM... people stop wanting to hangout... never call... never come visit... etc. This friendship is real, it's true and it's something I could never life without no matter how far apart we live. I am so grateful for my BIFF and for my past friendship with Meghan for showing me the true meaning of a best friend and the true meaning of love. We have gone from meeting each other at a restaurant to being the MOH in each others weddings and now having our daughters play together and become best friends like we are.

Without these relationships in my life I wouldn't be where I am today, healthy, happy and so in love with the man of my dreams.

I owe it all to my rock - my BIFF.